God’s Reasons and Description of Marriage #5

A Few More Reasons and Descriptions of Marriage:

• Marriage is a commitment and covenant relationship for life between one man and one woman. , Romans 7:2, Matthew 19:3-6, 1 Timothy 3:2, Malachi 2:10-17
  • The only way flesh can be separated from flesh is by painful, even fatal, tearing or cutting. It is that serious of a commitment, it is that serious to God, it’s why He said “one flesh” in Genesis 2:24.
  • Never ever use the “D” word; not even once, not in your thoughts, not in jokes or silliness, and especially not in any “discussion” with your spouse like as a threat for example. Don’t use the word even with friends or family, remove it from your vocabulary. In the New Testament, there is only one reason given for divorce, and with grace and forgiveness, I am not sure that is even a reason.

• Marriage is the primary relationship among people here on earth. Each person is to leave their family and be joined (cleave) to their spouse as Gen 2:24 says. The marriage relationship takes precedence over other relationships. “Leave and Cleave” are key terms in this verse and a vivid word picture. It comes from a description to jump from one fishing boat to another fishing boat, where your aim is to grab with both arms the central mast of the other boat when you get there. Once there and firmly “cleaved” to that mast, your old boat sails away and your old boat has no control over you any longer.

• Marriage is sacred, not to be taken for granted, and not defiled. It takes work, selfless work, and grace toward the spouse. Some things go against our self-centered human nature, but the rewards are wonderful when you do them. Hebrews 13:4. Malachi 2:15-16.
• Men and women are equal standing, but are different by God’s design, and bring different elements to the marriage, God designed marriage so each partner completes the other. Genesis 2:18
  • Your spouse is not your “better half”. You are completed with Jesus Christ, and so is your spouse. Then you bring that to the marriage relationship for a more perfect union, as one flesh.

• God designed marriage in a way that works best with specific roles and duties for each partner.  Ephesians 5:22-33

• Marriage partners help each other be holy, and not sin. To bring them back to godly principles. 1 Corinthians 7:5, Ephesians 5:26 say this, and each is to pray for their spouse daily, and treat their spouse as more important than themselves. Ephesians 4:29-32.

• Marriage partners enjoy each other, emotionally support each other, are their spouses best friend,  their companion, and solely satisfying sexually. Sex is God’s gift to a godly marriage given on the wedding day only, not before. Then the married couple has a LOT of freedom to enjoy it and have it often.
  • Do things together, do some she enjoys, and she will do some you enjoy.
  • Sex is your marriage relationship thermometer, not the thermostat.
  • Sex is the icing on the cake, not the main ingredient. Proverbs 5:18-19, Song of Solomon chapters 2 and 4.
    

Since God designed marriage and gave us wonderful reasons and descriptions of it, it only makes sense follow the Designer’s guidelines for the best marriage possible.